Originally published in Pre-Upgrade Sally in the Zen blog 2010-2011
Let’s examine some features in the Chinese repertoire, shall we?
Chopsticks. Check.
Bamboo. Check.
Cute pandas. Check.
And my all-time personal favorite…MATCH-MAKING. Check.
For a Chinese traditionalist, Zen Master is quite progressive. He’s quite open-minded about many things and fortunately for me, that also includes marriage. He leaves it up to me to decide if I want to get married or not.
Ever since college, I’ve been holding fast to an all-looky-no-touchy policy with its one caveat. Zen Master would be my litmus test if I were to ever contemplate marriage. So decreed by me after my first and last disastrous relationship in college.
Not even going there.
Why all-looky-no-touchy?
- Because I have a great personality.
- Because I have such unbelievably high expectations with marriage. Astronomical.
- Because I believe marriage is and should be forever.
- Because I believe that THE ONE will initially be a friend first.
- Because I’m fine going it alone and traveling down the least traveled path.
Because I’m a coward who doesn’t believe in sticking her neck out when it comes to these things. Besides, touching is such an intimate act of emotional expression, and I am quite reserved with people I don’t know well and like.
And then that lucky fella would have to face Zen Master.
That should make for some fine must-see TV.
Although Zen Master and Zen Mum never tried to match-make me, that didn’t mean their friends didn’t try. Three AW-YOU-GOTTA-BE-JOKING times.
TO BE CONTINUED.